Friday, April 4, 2014

Deflated

I try to go out of my normal work duties sometimes to try and expand my horizons, network, become more of a team player, etc. And the first year I did, it was AMAZING! Everyone did what they said they'd do. We all split the share of work evenly. It was a perfect alignment of a team.

Last year, wasn't so great. It seemed that the stars weren't as perfectly aligned as the year before. The meetings were more sporadic and no one wanted to do anything.

This year, I wasn't going to help. But someone different was running the show and I figured I'd do it to help her out since I knew her. But now............I feel so deflated.

She asks for help. Then we offer. And before we can do anything it's done already. WTF? Why ask us if you're just going to do it anyway?!?!? I guess I'll just stop offering. Maybe then I won't be so disappointed.

1 comment:

Jenandollie said...

Sometimes the person asking for help is unsure, particuarly if they are new in the role. It can be a bit daunting coming in and leading when there are already a load of people who have been doing it for a while.

It might be a case of not sure that the requested items will get done and rather than have egg on her face for trusting she would prefer to take it under her control ensuring she knows that if it goes wrong it is only herself to blame.

And so on.

The best thing to do is have a natter with her, she might not realise that this is happening and perhaps just needs a cuppa and a friendly offloading chat?

I'm sure whatever the reasons are communication from both/all sides will help clarify. In the meantime, rant away, can often help!